Tag Archive for: death

TommyLog – When Tragedy Strikes – Show Them You Care

02 Nov
November 2, 2015

Hey Kids it’s Dad, and for today’s TommyLog I want to talk about how you handle tragedy. I have a really great friend in Utah. She is a counselor at a junior high school. Over the weekend one of her students was killed in a tragic accident. Today she has to go to school and clean up the mess. There will be lots of tears, it will be lots of questions. There will be loads of opportunities to try to help. I know she is at a loss of words to know what to say. I know I certianly would be. I think that is natural. Sometimes we just don’t know what to say. There certainly no Hallmark cards to fit in just particular situation. “I’m sorry that your friend got hit by a car on Halloween.” Not to be callous., but you’re not gonna find cards like that.

So I think the best counsel for her and for everyone is sometimes you don’t need to say anything. Just a loving hug, and maybe if more is needed a “I love you!” That’s going to be sufficient.

We don’t know the grand plan of our loving Heavenly Father. But one thing I do know is that all your training that you’ve had throughout these years– it’s for this one big moment. The next few days are not going to be easy, but know that you’re not in this alone. We’re all behind you pulling. These kids definitely need you, but more importantly don’t forget — you need the kids.

TommyLog – Just Needed a Hug

28 May
May 28, 2015

Sad sad story from work. had a co-worker who lost her son to an apparent suicide. Not sure what to do.Not sure what to say. All I could think about was going to meet my oldest and give her a big hug. thats all i have at this very moment. So thankful for the blessings I have and not sure what I would do if I lost someone close to me in that manner.


TommyLog – Putting Your Country First

25 May
May 25, 2015

On this memorial day here in the US, I can’t help but think about those who put their country first and gave the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. I can say only one thing — THANK YOU!

TommyLog – Reverence for the Fallen

28 Mar
March 28, 2014

Having respect and a reverence for those who have put themselves before others is so important. A Facebook posting this week really hit home for me. The post was about how she had a body of a fallen solder on her plane and how the the body was deplaned before any of the passengers. That really hit me hard as a humbling experience.

Took me back to an experience I had visiting ground zero at the world trade center plaza just 5 weeks after the 9/11 terrorist attacks.

I’m So Sorry, It’s My Loss

24 Jul
July 24, 2013

Went to pay respects to the Lang family and especially Jess Dennis who lost her brother last week. As i waited in line, which ran out the door at time, I was just empty with what to say? What do you say in a time of tragedy like that? I had no clue. I was really stumped. I guess just having me stop over was all the words I needed to say, but you wish you had some grand words to say… then it hit me. I just said “Hi I’m Tommy, I’m sorry for your loss. It’s my loss that I never got to meet Erik.” Bam, done- that’s it.  I had never met Jess’s Mom or Dad before and that’s how I did it and it worked fine.

Jessica, I’m so sorry for your loss. I really got nothing. Words can’t take it away, but maybe the hug helped…a little.